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Psyche and Eros, Part 2

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It is recommended that you listen to the story first. To listen to the story, go here

Part 2: Psyche meets her fate, and so does Eros

“You will see a young woman atop Mount Aetna. Kill her,” Aphrodite tells her son, Eros. He flies off, obeying his mother without thought. 

Is this a case of blind obedience?

For the younger child, the parent is as a god, protecting and providing for the helpless little one until the little one grows up.  The process of growing up is difficult but made easier if the god slips into human mode, as he is supposed to do over time. The healthy parent learns to let go. For Eros, mama is a god. She has no human role to slip into. It will be Eros who will have to make the break from her. It will be Eros who will have to learn to say no to her demands. 

At this point in the story, Eros can be looked at as a young man with a job who still lives at home. Meaning, he’s immature, not yet a man. He will have to develop a firm resolve if he’s ever to “leave home.” To do so, he will need to broaden his experiences in life, to get out of Olympus to see how the humans live. He will need to suffer if he’s to experience the depth of humanity.

Aphrodite is a stand in for an extreme type of parent. There are those human parents that will ask their child to kill in their name. Think Mafia dons or political tyrants and you get the picture. Besides the material killings, inner or spiritual killings can do great harm. Psyche does represent the soul, therefore, Aphrodite is at war with the soul. She is asking Eros, the male god of love, to kill the soul. 

What does it mean when he refuses? When Eros releases his bow and then returns the poisoned arrow to the quiver, he commits an act of independence. After he sees Psyche for the first time, it takes only a few moments for him to decide what he wants and how he will get it. He makes a plan. It’s his first human act. Due to circumstances, he must implement his plan immediately. He’s growing up fast, going from obedient child to a young man in love in a matter of minutes. Before the day is out, Eros will provide for his wife, make love to her and set in motion a plan to keep his mother from knowing about his marriage. It may seem that he’s not entirely grown up since he doesn’t want to tell his mother about his wife. Not so. Aphrodite wanted Psyche dead. If Eros refuses to kill her, there are other gods and humans who will do the job. 

Psyche, expecting to be devoured by a monster, instead hears a very human like voice speak to her. This voice asks her to trust him. He doesn’t sound ominous, so Psyche continues to follow her destiny. This part of the story illustrates how the soul can become an active guide. We refer to it as intuition when we listen and follow our deepest selves. Psyche is rewarded for her trust. Eros provides everything: house, food and sexual pleasure. What more does a girl want?

Companionship. Psyche’s marriage is lopsided. The pair are like many young couples who have not matured into full relationships. Eros is gone all day working. Psyche doesn’t have enough to do. She doesn’t even know what her husband looks like. He’s a voice in the darkness. Their pleasure is purely tactile for her because she has not seen him. For the sake of Psyche’s protection, or so he thinks, Eros doesn’t allow her to fully participate in their marriage. Like many a wealthy husband, he doesn’t think beyond taking very good care of his wife. That fills his needs, not hers. 

Naturally, Psyche gets bored. She wants to go home to see her family, to let them know that she has not been eaten by some horrible monster. Eros agrees. When she arrives home, her family is overjoyed. Her parents do the wise thing; they don’t ask her too many questions. Her sisters, however, are curiosity unleashed. They ask every question and make every comment they can about this unseen husband. They get it, that while Psyche may be well cared for, until she knows and understands who her husband is, it’s not a real marriage. Like the snake in the Garden of Eden, Psyche’s sisters encourage her to discover the truth, to break out of her state of ignorance.

Psyche, by maintaining her ignorance, hangs on to her childhood. If she is to flourish, however, she must gain knowledge. She must bite into the apple. 

Her apple is a lamp. Once she returns home, she hides a lamp in her bedroom. Instead of falling asleep after her pleasure with Eros, Psyche opts to learn the truth. She wants to know exactly who she is married to, who she is sleeping with. 

Shouldn’t we always know who we are sleeping with? 

When Psyche looks at Eros, he awakes. He is disappointed that Psyche would no longer agree to stay in the dark. Here he betrays his own immaturity by leaving her immediately after she has seen him. He wants to keep things hidden, to not reveal himself. Eros is not quite ready for prime time. 

What is Eros afraid of? Of giving himself totally to Psyche. Eros was stuck in the “give” mode, he didn’t know how to receive graciously. Like the Godfather, who gave favors so that he could get what he needed later, Eros didn’t want to owe Psyche anything. He wanted her to be grateful. He didn’t want gratitude applied to him. But the soul needs fullness. It needs to give as well as take in. It needs trust. Eros did not trust Psyche with his secret. His love was for love, not for Psyche. What Eros didn’t understand is that he needed soul in his relationship. He needed to look this woman in her eyes in the midst of his passion so that she could return his adoration. 

Eros may be able to fly away, but he cannot leave the effects of a lopsided marriage behind him. He will suffer for his timidity. Psyche’s boldness turns to distress. Nothing here is unusual, for everyone stumbles on their way to providence. No one is exempt. Not even the gods. 

In our next analysis we will look at Psyche’s quest and Eros’ suffering. 

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Written by lcrockett

July 25, 2013 at 10:51 pm

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Marriage Outside the Box, Part 1

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Only those locked in a cage somewhere in outer space have not heard about the Miss California flap. There has been much wringing of hands and gnashing of teeth on the Right and joyful viciousness on the Left. If you haven’t heard about it, first, I want to welcome you back to civilization, and second, you may want to think about going back to that cage in outer space.

Using the 25 words or less method, here’s what happened. During the Miss USA pageant, Miss California answered a direct question with a direct answer. No, she does not believe in “gay marriage.” With her words a firestorm was unleashed.

The “gay marriage” issue is not going to go away until Islam takes over the world.

I bet that got your attention.

The world Islam would like to control is a very confused and messy place. Besides the usual challenges of keeping bodies and souls together, we have the economy, world terrorism, illegal immigrants and global warming to contend with along with a culture that is changing rapidly, as in a generation that grew up in largely a heterosexual world is seemingly morphing into a multi-gendered one where anything not only goes, it is now legally sanctioned. Like same sex marriage. Yes the idea that two people of the same sex would marry is, on the surface, outrageous. There is no historical precedence for it, nor does such a relationship have a parallel in nature that we can point to and say, “See, they do it.”  This notion has as its basis the concept that states should legalize matrimony. Same sex marriage, then, is one of the unintended consequences of the enlightenment of the 18th century.

The traditionalists see same sex marriage as a revolutionary march into hell for the culture. The metro group, made up of social liberals of all stripes, not just lefties, views it as an evolutionary change. California, where I reside most of the year, has a population of nearly 37,000,000. Of that population, approximately 186,000 are a part of a gay couple. Based on the national average of 7.6 percent, there are, in California, approximately 281,200 gays/lesbians. Therefore, what we are discussing here is marriage for this small group of people.  How I arrived at this estimation is by reading over the census data contained on this site: http://www.gaydemographics.org/USA/2000_Census_Total.htm. I chose the middle percentage (7.6, I always choose the middle figure) because I believe the 10 percent is way too high, and the 2.7 a bit low.

When most folks are queried about same sex unions, there is more compassion than hostility. A great many Americans do feel that same sex couples need legal protections as well as legal rights that are basically marriage rights. The problem is when labeling it “marriage” it doesn’t sit well with a great deal of folks. Miss California is one of them. So the question becomes how did such a small percentage of the population get so much control over this conversation?

Well, we, sort of, invited it in. Let me explain.Traditionalists failed to evolve. Those who cry the loudest against gay marriage have been absent on the marriage front for a long time. They have addressed contemporary issues using religion as their backup on why folks need to marry traditionally. Those arguments hold no water in a highly secularized city, where most of the population reside. In short, traditionalists need to look in the mirror and place blame on themselves as the”other partner” in this tango. It goes back to the old theory that if you are not a part of the solution you are a part of the problem. The Left loves this theory because lefties wants to politicize everything. If all problems in life have a political solution then big government has a job to do. So naturally, the Left loves the concept of gay marriage. It brings gays, who used to be rebels with a cause, into the fold.

Since the left has a track record of taking the low road whenever they need to in order to get their way, no one need be surprised that Miss California got dumped on.  If Miss California had lost her crown, the left would have successfully politicized a beauty contest. But I believe Donald Trump saw through that one and on to the bigger danger. Which is this. It would have been a return to the days when women were to behave. Answer the way you are supposed to, dear. Don’t think for yourself, do not be bold, be a good little girl. How boring is that? Very. The Miss USA program would become a channel turner.

What I suggest is that social conservatives  start changing this conversation, and redirect it. They can challenge the concept of the state having the authority over marriage in the first place. Think this through thoroughly, my friends. What business does the state have in issuing a marriage license? This is especially directed at religious people. It is only too obvious that, in the west, a marriage license has become an invitation to a divorce rendering it a mockery of marriage because that piece of paper is meaningless. A state that requires it really cannot force you to keep it intact. Indeed, on that end of marriage, divorce, the state admitted 40 years back that it couldn’t keep people married. So if you are powerless on that end, why not give up the power on the front end?

Stop thinking marriage will crumble if gays marry. Marriage has already crumbled. Instead, start thinking outside the box. Start thinking about how to rebuild marriage. And to do that, get the politics out of it. Start thinking new language, a new song to drown out that cacophony of hate from the Left.

The above suggestion is based on the theory that sometimes you just have to give people what they want. And then some.

Part Two will address the new rumblings, from the multi-spouse groups.

Written by lcrockett

May 13, 2009 at 2:55 pm

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